Perfect Marriage | Relationship : Mix of Trust , Love and Compromises

Everyone needs companionship. We all want to be with that special person who will be everything we’ve always dreamed of. Your dreams and wishes can come true. Follow these tips today to be a perfect soul mate.


1. Be yourself from the start of any relationship. 

If you begin the relationship by putting on the front of a perfect hybrid version of you and some sort of Stepford wife, what happens when the cracks begin to show? Be yourself from day one, and your spouse will have proven that you are accepted and loved for who you really are, not who you are pretending to be.

2Exercise your sense of humor.
A good, stout sense of humor is indispensable for a great marriage. Try to see the humor in difficult situations, it'll help you both roll with tough times much better.

3Forgive, forgive, forgive.
The three most important words for a good marriage.

4Give each other the benefit of any doubts.
You have built a relationship based on trust. Don't assume that your spouse is doing things for the purpose of irritating you - maybe s/he just doesn't realize something s/he does is bothering you. Let your spouse know about things that bother you without assuming the worst of him or her, and once it's out in the open give your mate time to make adjustments and corrections.

5Try to let the little annoyances go.
Ask yourself if something irritating you is really worth fighting over. Is something wrong, or is it just different from the way you would do it? Allow differences to go by without comment. If something is really bothering you, talk about it in a non-accusatory way, and see if you can work it out without arguing.

6Find ways to share responsibility.
If you're both working 80 hours a week, why should the wife still have to do all the cooking and cleaning? Try to find a mix of jobs you both do better, e.g. dishes and lawn mowing, and share responsibility. Find ways of creating a routine that involves everyone, i.e.: “If you take the bins out, I’ll bring them in", “You wash, I’ll dry", etc. This will avoid the nagging housewife syndrome. Remember, you will be living together forever( til death do you part) - save some for tomorrow. The world won't come to an end if you don't finish all the laundry today.

7Make time to sit down together once a day and share time together.
 Even if it's only 10 minutes before bed, talk, cuddle, and share each others company.

8Don’t expect perfection.
Remember, your spouse is human, and so are you. Make allowances for the human condition: tired, overworked, over-stressed, family illnesses, personal illnesses, and simple frailty.

9Do something nice for your partner during a rough patch.
Cold shouldering or constant arguing about a contentious issue will likely just drive you apart. A thoughtful gesture can go a long way in helping you feel closer to each other, making it that much more likely that you will work through your problems. This works especially well if you feel like your partner does not compliment or do nice things for you often any more. Start complimenting them and make it a point to be nice -- they'll WANT to do something nice for you!

10Try to find something nice about your partner every day, and say it to them! Whether it's a compliment on his/her outfit or a thank you for just taking out the trash, it always feels good to get a little boost from the person you love. And you'll feel good doing the boosting.

11Learn from your mistakes.
When you say "I'm sorry", mean it! That means you won't repeat the action. Apologizing and then repeating the behavior shows your mate that you weren't that sorry after all, and it erodes trust over time.

12Keep no secrets, and avoid even the appearance of any hanky panky.
Being transparent with your partner is important, because it shows you each trust one another with every detail of your lives. If you're harboring secrets, they will eventually be found out and that will spell trouble for your marriage. Keeping things clear and open prevents suspicion and jealousy. Don't do things to get a rise out of your spouse, and if someone at the office is hitting on you and won't stop, tell your boss about it and ask that one of you be transferred. If you maintain a clean appearance and an honest, open communication with your partner, you will be trusted when it's truly imperative.

13Remember that marriage is a nuts and bolts arrangement.
While you're planning your wedding, you may entertain fairy-tale notions of a life lived happily ever after. The reality of marriage is that sometimes, it's just a day to day grind - one or both of you may be tense, on edge, bored, not happy with the other one, not feel so warm and fuzzy. It's not all about your feelings. Repeat: it is not all about your feelings. It's about your commitment to one another. Whether or not you "feel" like you're in love, "feel" you're getting your needs met, or whatever, the reality is, you have sworn a vow to one another. A lot of the time, marriage isn't romantic at all - it's about teamwork and getting the job done every single day.

14Plan for down times.
You will have much less stress to deal with if you work together to plan a budget, accumulate at least a small savings account ($500 emergency fund can work wonders), and prepare for the times when things go wrong, life will be much smoother.

15Act like everything's okay.
If you're having a rough patch, feeling like you just can't remember what attracted you to him in the first place, wondering what possessed you to marry her... just smile and behave yourself in a kind, genteel way. Act like everything is normal. In fact, go out of your way to be kind, thoughtful, and caring toward your mate. It may sound weird, but if you just keep putting one foot in front of the other, and act like nothing's wrong, eventually, everything really will be normal, okay, and even better.

16Don't be afraid to go to bed angry.
A lot of well-meaning people say that you shouldn't let the sun set on a fight. But it's far better to simply come to a point in the argument where you can stop fighting actively and sleep on it. Instead of continuing an argument that is escalating out of control and going in circles, stopping, resting, and waking refreshed can give you new perspective, and help you come to a better and more satisfying resolution than just fighting it out until you're both battered, bloody, and after you've said things you can never take back. Sleeping on it will also help you allow residual negative feelings to dissipate - you don't always just say, "Okay, that's it, argument over," and return to those warm, loving feelings - sometimes resentment lingers awhile. Let it go - get some rest. You'll both feel better in the morning.

17Ask yourself what you can do today to make your spouse's life happier.
By finding one way each day to make your partner's life just a little bit nicer, you will never forget that you truly do care for him or her. Doing nice things for your mate makes you think nice thoughts about him or her. It's a good habit.

18Kiss your spouse for at least 5 seconds before you leave in the morning and before going to bed at night.

19Say thank you for the little things (doing the dishes, clearing the table, putting a new roll of toilet paper out, and do these things WITHOUT expectations).

20Compliment each other every day. 

It doesn't take much to make your spouse feel good. Be sincere and when you're given a compliment, even if you don't agree, just say "thank you."

21Hug and hold hands often, daily.

22Shut up and listen!
You do much more learning with your mouth closed and your mind open. You have one mouth and two ears so you can listen twice as much as you talk.

23Argue softly.
How you say things can have a larger impact that what you say. Remain calm and speak in a normal tone of voice.

24Be cautious and think before you choose the words you use in Public or a Group.
Before you speak ask yourself this: if you or your spouse died that moment, would you want what you are about to say to be the last words you shared?

25At least once a month, have a special evening out with another married couple so you can laugh and learn from each others relationship.
Have at least one romantic night out per month and bring the romance home with you!

26Take a class together.
There are some restaurants that will teach you how to make a meal from start to finish or you can both learn to play a musical instrument. It's a great way to spend time together and see how each other learns.

27Take turns making decisions.
It's no fun when someone asks you for your opinion and you say, "whatever you want." If all they wanted was what they wanted, they wouldn't have asked you. Be polite and give a complete and honest answer.

28Exercise together.
Being healthy and taking care of yourself shows your partner that you want to be around for a long time and will be able to care for them if they get ill.

29Appreciate your partner's strengths as well as their weaknesses.
They chose to be with you because there are aspects of your personality that they can learn from and absorb. Show them how much you love them by being supportive when they are weak and proud when they are strong. Listen to what they say, you may learn something.

30Do the little things .
Waking up to a hot cup of coffee or an ironed shirt, or coming home to lit candles are little ways to show that you care.

31Show appreciation and don't ever take him/her for granted or you will miss him/her when they're gone!

32Laugh at the little mistakes in life, hold the drama for major crisis!

Don't make an issue of the "toothpaste tube", laugh at the small nuisances and you will be a happier person for it!

33Accept responsibility for your actions and choices.
Be honest in all aspects of your relationship. If you have not been, start now!

34Go dancing with your spouse on weekends, it's great exercise and fun.
If you can't dance then take a lesson together and learn a dance to enjoy with each other.

35Go on a walk together.
The exercise is not only good for your physical health, it gets the blood pumping through your brains and helps you think more clearly. The views and smells of nature will help relax both of you. The clear minds and the soothing affects will create a great environment to be open and honest and talk about everything.

Don’t just stand there waiting around for someone to come and make your life better. Start working on yourself. Work towards your dreams. Make yourself worthy, because only then can you attract a worthy mate.