Habits That Can Cause Break Up and Spoil Your Relationship

There are a few habits that we sub-consciously indulge in that could badly harm our relationships. Here's a rundown...

Nagging: Nobody likes a nagger. In fact it could potentially be toxic for a lot of your relationships. It's important to let your partner be and not interfere as much. There's a thin line between being cute and being annoying, know when to draw that line or it can be destructive for your relationship.

Comparing: Learn to appreciate your partner and love him or her for what they are instead of constantly comparing them to every Tom, Dick and Harry. Even if you're doing it subconsciously in your head- stop. And mentioning it to them is an absolute no-no. Your partner deserves better than that.

Talking about your ex: Nobody would like to feel like they're constantly being held up for comparison with your previous lovers. A sure way of ruining your own relationship is by continually bringing up your past liaisons. Till your both reach a stage of security, steer clear of this topic.

Bad communication: Only half-listening to your partner and nodding your head for everything without really paying much attention can be detrimental for your relationship in the long run. Work on your communication and try to really listen and grasp what your partner is talking about to you.

Bringing up the past: Avoid discussing the past. Its important to realize that no matter how much you discuss it or bring it up, it cannot be erased. If you truly want to be with your partner, then make a concerted effort to forget his/her past and move on to newer beginnings. Remember that you are his/her present.

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Babymoon Guide To Future Moms And Dads

A babymoon is a vacation taken by a couple either soon before, or soon after, the birth of their baby, like the honeymoon which follows a wedding. It is  a period of time that parents spend bonding with a recently born baby. Nowadays , it is also described a vacation taken by a couple that is expecting a baby, in order to allow the couple to enjoy a final trip together before the baby is born.

Babymoons are quickly becoming the hottest trend in travel among parents-to-be. 

Future Moms and Dads are searching for a vacation that gives them time to 

strengthen their bonding with each other and also with baby.

Lot of Question about Planning of babymoons ?? 

Not to WORRY now !!!!!!! Here is the unique and budget friendly Babymoon Ideas for you :-)

From choosing a destination to planning a beautiful and memorable babymoon trip , to deciding the best time for a pre-baby or post-baby vacation period , to tips and suggestions for pre-baby travel , here I have tried to provide all the information which will surely help you in perfect Babymoon tour.

Babymoon Tips and Suggestions

• If you're flying to your babymoon destination, check with the airline to see if they have any restrictions regarding pregnant passengers. Some airlines require a letter from your doctor stating that it's safe for you to travel, particularly if you're more than 32 weeks along.

• Even if your airline does not require a doctor's letter, we strongly recommend getting one anyway! Should your plans be disrupted in any way, you may be required to change planes (and even airlines) - and you might find that the new airline enforces stricter regulations regarding flying during pregnancy than the original one.

• When packing your bags, include the contact information for the nearest medical center along with the phone number of your obstetrician.If your flight includes a meal, check that the ingredients are safe for pregnant women.

• Consider purchasing trip cancellation insurance. Plans typically reimburse your non-reimbursed travel expenses if an emergency (death, sickness, airline strike, travel company bankruptcy, etc.) occurs right before or during your trip causing it to be canceled, interrupted or delayed. Many travel insurance plans list pregnancy as an exclusion for coverage so you need to read the fine print.

• If you are traveling outside of the U.S. on your pre-baby vacation, verify that your medical insurance will cover you if you need medical care - many policies do not provide coverage outside of the U.S. If you aren't covered, consider purchasing travel medical coverage. Again, pregnancy is an exclusion for coverage on many policies, so shop carefully for this coverage.

• Wear comfy shoes for your journey (particularly if you're flying) and bring snacks... as you have probably noticed, pregnancy can make you unpredictably hungry!

Review my Upcoming blogs on "Best Time to Take Your Pre-Vacation Babymoon" and   "When to Babymoon - Best Destinations" 

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DATE YOUR WIFE or HUSBAND TONIGHT

Guies , how do we begin to change our course? It's simple. It's so simple you can start tonight.

Now that the confetti has been brushed away and the wedding photographs stored, you might be feeling like the wedding magic is all over. But in fact you are just beginning your romantic journey as husband and wife. Just because you’re married it doesn’t mean you can say goodbye to romance. I believe a lot of relationships fail because we lose sight of ourselves as a couple.

 I know life is hectic and we all feel we are being pulled in a dozen different directions at once. But when was the last time you went out, just the two of you and concentrated just on each other?

I bet you a hundred bucks that if you follow the following game plan tonight you'll experience the beginnings of something fresh, new, and exciting in your marriage:

Step 1: Call your better half right now and tell that you're taking her/him out to dinner tonight. Make all the arrangements and make this evening beautiful .

Step 2: Make reservations, arrange babysitting if you have kids, and cancel any previous plans you had on the calendar for tonight.

Step 3: Go out for dinner ( candlelit to make it more romantic ) with your spouse and try giving him/her full attention and feel special.

Step 4: Say "sorry." Tell your spouse you're sorry for ways you've neglected your marriage or failed to take care of and date her/him.

Step 5: Have fun.

Follow this plan, and you're off to a great start. The next step is to start dreaming and planning for how you will continue to date your wife/hubby for the rest of your life.

Perfect Marriage | Relationship : Mix of Trust , Love and Compromises

Everyone needs companionship. We all want to be with that special person who will be everything we’ve always dreamed of. Your dreams and wishes can come true. Follow these tips today to be a perfect soul mate.


1. Be yourself from the start of any relationship. 

If you begin the relationship by putting on the front of a perfect hybrid version of you and some sort of Stepford wife, what happens when the cracks begin to show? Be yourself from day one, and your spouse will have proven that you are accepted and loved for who you really are, not who you are pretending to be.

2Exercise your sense of humor.
A good, stout sense of humor is indispensable for a great marriage. Try to see the humor in difficult situations, it'll help you both roll with tough times much better.

3Forgive, forgive, forgive.
The three most important words for a good marriage.

4Give each other the benefit of any doubts.
You have built a relationship based on trust. Don't assume that your spouse is doing things for the purpose of irritating you - maybe s/he just doesn't realize something s/he does is bothering you. Let your spouse know about things that bother you without assuming the worst of him or her, and once it's out in the open give your mate time to make adjustments and corrections.

5Try to let the little annoyances go.
Ask yourself if something irritating you is really worth fighting over. Is something wrong, or is it just different from the way you would do it? Allow differences to go by without comment. If something is really bothering you, talk about it in a non-accusatory way, and see if you can work it out without arguing.

6Find ways to share responsibility.
If you're both working 80 hours a week, why should the wife still have to do all the cooking and cleaning? Try to find a mix of jobs you both do better, e.g. dishes and lawn mowing, and share responsibility. Find ways of creating a routine that involves everyone, i.e.: “If you take the bins out, I’ll bring them in", “You wash, I’ll dry", etc. This will avoid the nagging housewife syndrome. Remember, you will be living together forever( til death do you part) - save some for tomorrow. The world won't come to an end if you don't finish all the laundry today.

7Make time to sit down together once a day and share time together.
 Even if it's only 10 minutes before bed, talk, cuddle, and share each others company.

8Don’t expect perfection.
Remember, your spouse is human, and so are you. Make allowances for the human condition: tired, overworked, over-stressed, family illnesses, personal illnesses, and simple frailty.

9Do something nice for your partner during a rough patch.
Cold shouldering or constant arguing about a contentious issue will likely just drive you apart. A thoughtful gesture can go a long way in helping you feel closer to each other, making it that much more likely that you will work through your problems. This works especially well if you feel like your partner does not compliment or do nice things for you often any more. Start complimenting them and make it a point to be nice -- they'll WANT to do something nice for you!

10Try to find something nice about your partner every day, and say it to them! Whether it's a compliment on his/her outfit or a thank you for just taking out the trash, it always feels good to get a little boost from the person you love. And you'll feel good doing the boosting.

11Learn from your mistakes.
When you say "I'm sorry", mean it! That means you won't repeat the action. Apologizing and then repeating the behavior shows your mate that you weren't that sorry after all, and it erodes trust over time.

12Keep no secrets, and avoid even the appearance of any hanky panky.
Being transparent with your partner is important, because it shows you each trust one another with every detail of your lives. If you're harboring secrets, they will eventually be found out and that will spell trouble for your marriage. Keeping things clear and open prevents suspicion and jealousy. Don't do things to get a rise out of your spouse, and if someone at the office is hitting on you and won't stop, tell your boss about it and ask that one of you be transferred. If you maintain a clean appearance and an honest, open communication with your partner, you will be trusted when it's truly imperative.

13Remember that marriage is a nuts and bolts arrangement.
While you're planning your wedding, you may entertain fairy-tale notions of a life lived happily ever after. The reality of marriage is that sometimes, it's just a day to day grind - one or both of you may be tense, on edge, bored, not happy with the other one, not feel so warm and fuzzy. It's not all about your feelings. Repeat: it is not all about your feelings. It's about your commitment to one another. Whether or not you "feel" like you're in love, "feel" you're getting your needs met, or whatever, the reality is, you have sworn a vow to one another. A lot of the time, marriage isn't romantic at all - it's about teamwork and getting the job done every single day.

14Plan for down times.
You will have much less stress to deal with if you work together to plan a budget, accumulate at least a small savings account ($500 emergency fund can work wonders), and prepare for the times when things go wrong, life will be much smoother.

15Act like everything's okay.
If you're having a rough patch, feeling like you just can't remember what attracted you to him in the first place, wondering what possessed you to marry her... just smile and behave yourself in a kind, genteel way. Act like everything is normal. In fact, go out of your way to be kind, thoughtful, and caring toward your mate. It may sound weird, but if you just keep putting one foot in front of the other, and act like nothing's wrong, eventually, everything really will be normal, okay, and even better.

16Don't be afraid to go to bed angry.
A lot of well-meaning people say that you shouldn't let the sun set on a fight. But it's far better to simply come to a point in the argument where you can stop fighting actively and sleep on it. Instead of continuing an argument that is escalating out of control and going in circles, stopping, resting, and waking refreshed can give you new perspective, and help you come to a better and more satisfying resolution than just fighting it out until you're both battered, bloody, and after you've said things you can never take back. Sleeping on it will also help you allow residual negative feelings to dissipate - you don't always just say, "Okay, that's it, argument over," and return to those warm, loving feelings - sometimes resentment lingers awhile. Let it go - get some rest. You'll both feel better in the morning.

17Ask yourself what you can do today to make your spouse's life happier.
By finding one way each day to make your partner's life just a little bit nicer, you will never forget that you truly do care for him or her. Doing nice things for your mate makes you think nice thoughts about him or her. It's a good habit.

18Kiss your spouse for at least 5 seconds before you leave in the morning and before going to bed at night.

19Say thank you for the little things (doing the dishes, clearing the table, putting a new roll of toilet paper out, and do these things WITHOUT expectations).

20Compliment each other every day. 

It doesn't take much to make your spouse feel good. Be sincere and when you're given a compliment, even if you don't agree, just say "thank you."

21Hug and hold hands often, daily.

22Shut up and listen!
You do much more learning with your mouth closed and your mind open. You have one mouth and two ears so you can listen twice as much as you talk.

23Argue softly.
How you say things can have a larger impact that what you say. Remain calm and speak in a normal tone of voice.

24Be cautious and think before you choose the words you use in Public or a Group.
Before you speak ask yourself this: if you or your spouse died that moment, would you want what you are about to say to be the last words you shared?

25At least once a month, have a special evening out with another married couple so you can laugh and learn from each others relationship.
Have at least one romantic night out per month and bring the romance home with you!

26Take a class together.
There are some restaurants that will teach you how to make a meal from start to finish or you can both learn to play a musical instrument. It's a great way to spend time together and see how each other learns.

27Take turns making decisions.
It's no fun when someone asks you for your opinion and you say, "whatever you want." If all they wanted was what they wanted, they wouldn't have asked you. Be polite and give a complete and honest answer.

28Exercise together.
Being healthy and taking care of yourself shows your partner that you want to be around for a long time and will be able to care for them if they get ill.

29Appreciate your partner's strengths as well as their weaknesses.
They chose to be with you because there are aspects of your personality that they can learn from and absorb. Show them how much you love them by being supportive when they are weak and proud when they are strong. Listen to what they say, you may learn something.

30Do the little things .
Waking up to a hot cup of coffee or an ironed shirt, or coming home to lit candles are little ways to show that you care.

31Show appreciation and don't ever take him/her for granted or you will miss him/her when they're gone!

32Laugh at the little mistakes in life, hold the drama for major crisis!

Don't make an issue of the "toothpaste tube", laugh at the small nuisances and you will be a happier person for it!

33Accept responsibility for your actions and choices.
Be honest in all aspects of your relationship. If you have not been, start now!

34Go dancing with your spouse on weekends, it's great exercise and fun.
If you can't dance then take a lesson together and learn a dance to enjoy with each other.

35Go on a walk together.
The exercise is not only good for your physical health, it gets the blood pumping through your brains and helps you think more clearly. The views and smells of nature will help relax both of you. The clear minds and the soothing affects will create a great environment to be open and honest and talk about everything.

Don’t just stand there waiting around for someone to come and make your life better. Start working on yourself. Work towards your dreams. Make yourself worthy, because only then can you attract a worthy mate.

The Dos and Don'ts In Love and Relationship

Here is a sampling of the many love and relationship do's and don't we read often and yet tend to forget.

Without the beginning base of truth in a relationship, trust cannot occur. Without the development of trust, respect will never be born. Without a level of respect for another, a functional relationship of love will not seed and nourish the partners. Intimacy occurs when we become willing to share our whole selves with another in the following order : 

TRUTH

TRUST

RESPECT

LOVE

INTIMACY

It is the gift we get when we learn to engage in a balanced, loving and functional relationship.

Love's Dos and Don'ts

Never ever go to bed mad at your mate, sleep on the couch if you have to: the bedroom should be a safe, wonderful, and enjoyable place to go to.

Pick your fights, ask yourself if this is something that is going to matter in 5 years, if not let it go.

Do not speak when you are mad, wait until you calm down enough to talk, take a walk, a long bath, or whatever you do to calm down, and always, always, always stick to the subject, and do not ever attack their personal feelings, they have just as much right to them as you do to yours.

When you go out, always allow partner first, a lady can open a door for a man just as easily especially if his hands are full.

Ask for their opinion on stuff, if they don't have one, do not badger one out, it will only start a fight over nothing.

Tell your partner often that you love them, I try for at least 10 times a day, even if they are right after another.

If you find that you are both getting in a rut and nothing seems to be as spontaneous as it once was, first talk then think of some action to take.

Surprise them often with different comments, once I told my husband that I didn't think that I loved him anymore, after a mil-a-second I said that I knew that I loved him and I didn't have to guess, that was a wonderful evening.

Always try to understand what they are saying. And if your partner likes a certain type of sport, try to learn what the sport is about and the names of the teams and you never know you might actually like it once you understand it.

Show your love in the way that you take care of yourself, your partner, your children, your home your job, you would be surprising how well that works.

This is the easiest one of all and I think more people should follow it, the world would truly be a better place. Laugh, yes just that. Laugh at least once a day. It's good for you and those around you.

Things That You Must Do Together To Have a Healthy Relationship

I hope you like'd my previous blog , now here'a my attempt to write more on the same !! Here we Go !!!!!!!!!!!!!

1. Revive your relationship .
 
Going on dates, even if you've been in a relationship for years, is still important. In fact, it's especially important for couples who have been together long enough to grow comfortable. Try to go on a date at least once every month. Some couples make it a priority to go on one date every week.

If you're having trouble imagining date ideas, try recreating a date you had with your partner early on in your courtship. Do exactly the same thing(s), or put a spin on the date by reinventing it in a significant way.

Do something new and exciting. Doing something that gets your blood flowing and your heart rate up enhances feelings of togetherness between partners. If you're feeling brave, go on dates that makes you feel like a kid all over again: going to a comedy club, taking a cooking class, or test-driving a new car, to name only a few.

2 Forget your Past and Move On. 

Forgiveness is a decision of letting go of the past and focusing on the present. It's about taking control of your current situation, as you must offer it to your partner as much as you demand it from them.

Remember who forgiveness really benefits. Forgiving your partner absolves him or her, but it also frees you from carrying around anger and resentment. Don't view it as an entirely altruistic act — it's something you're doing for both of you.

3 Laugh and have fun together. 

Laugh at one another with the security of love. Laughter helps the world go 'round, and it may with your relationship, too. Laughter helps your body burn calories, increase blood flow, strengthen the immune system, and lowers blood sugar levels.[1] Laughter can be comforting, infectious, or an aphrodisiac, and many things in between. Don't forget to laugh.

4 Be Supportive 

Being supportive means making your partner's happiness and well-being a priority, in ways big and small. Keep in mind that part of why you're together in the first place is that you're each other's biggest fans, so make sure you act like it. Try demonstrating your support in these ways:

Be a good listener. If your partner needs you to lend an ear, do it willingly. You don't always need to come up with a solution, just support.
Offer encouragement. If your partner is trying to make a positive change, start a new hobby, or undertake a difficult challenge, be his or her biggest cheerleader.

Provide a safe place. Allow your partner to be vulnerable in front of you without fear of judgment.

5 Devote time to each other. 

Make spending time with your partner a priority, even if it's a little inconvenient at first. Relationships need shared experiences to grow, and you're demonstrating that nurturing yours is important to you.

Take up a hobby. Learning something new together can help you grow closer, as well as discovering a leisure activity you both enjoy. Try sports like tennis or basketball, learning a new language, cooking, crafting, or whatever else you've been wanting to try.
Find small ways to serve each other. Doing small acts of service for your partner shows that you're aware of what he or she needs, and you're willing to help out. It doesn't have to be an extravagant gesture: make dinner, take care of a small errand, or offer a foot rub at the end of the day. Don't make it a big deal, and don't automatically expect payback.

6 Nevel let a communication gap in your relationship 
Most people aren't born great communicators — it's something nearly everyone has to work at. The way you talk to your partner might seem small, but you do it several times a day and it does have an effect. Consider these fixes:

Don't use directive language. Try to keep phrases like "you should" or "you can't" out of your relationship. You and your partner are equals, and neither one of you should have the authority to direct the other.

Relay your expectations. If you expect your partner to do something, say it. Don't expect that he or she should read your mind, and don't rely on hints. Being clear about what you want gives your partner a fair shot at succeeding. (And keep the above point in mind: instead of "You should take the garbage out every day," say "I'd really like it if you took the garbage out every day.")

Say "please" and "thank you." You should be able to let loose around your partner, so there's no need to worry about having impeccable manners all the time. The exception to this is asking nicely and expressing gratitude when your partner does something — don't just assume he or she knows how you meant it.

Fight fair. Don't just let all these good communication skills go out the window during an argument. Try to get your point across in a loving, respectful way that doesn't seek to hurt your partner. If he or she insists on yelling or throwing insults, quietly request a calmer attitude.

How to Maintain Love in A Relationship

Sometimes relationships can seem like a lot of one sided work until you sit back and realize just how much you've been given. A thriving, successful relationship requires both give and take, and is absolutely possible if you and your partner understands each other. It's not necessssary to have similar qualities to be in a relationship but hte msot important thing is Understanding and trust on each other. 

Here are some of the tips to have a Healthy Love Life !!

Things You Must Do To maintain Love in your Relationship

1. You are responsible for your own happiness. 

Save yourself several hours of arguing by remembering this one rule: it's not only his/her duty to make you happy.
 
2.Be good with your words and promises.

Follow through on your promises. When you say you're going to do something, do it. Don't say that you'll cook dinner, or get a birthday present, and then blow it off or simply forget about it. What this does is systematically destroy trust. And relationships need trust in order to thrive.

3 Apologize for your mistakes. 

If you know you've done something to hurt your partner, intentionally or not, own up to it. Humble yourself and apologize sincerely, without making excuses or justifications like "I'm sorry you made me angry."

Commit to changing your behavior. If you notice yourself apologizing for the same mistake over and over, step it up a level. Tell your partner that you recognize this mistake keeps happening, and you want to train yourself to stop. Request help and ask for him or her to gently point it out to you when you're making this mistake again.

4 Be sensible and practical along with emotional. 

Every relationship has disagreements and days when staying isn't the easiest choice. But what makes a relationship healthy is choosing to resolve those problems and push through the hard days, instead of just letting issues and resentment fester.

Review your expectations. Do you see your partner as a person, with both winning qualities and flaws, or as someone you expect to be perfect? If your expectations are so astronomical that no one could live up to them 100% of the time, you're setting up your relationship for failure.

Accept that conflict happens. If you expect to be in a long-term relationship, you're bound to have the occasional disagreement. Remember that one argument isn't the end of everything, and there's no person on earth that you'd agree with all the time.
Always ask yourself whether you're better off in the relationship than out of it. If you don't think you're better off in the relationship, then you probably should have a serious discussion with your partner. In a loving relationship, this question almost always gets a simple "Yes."

5 Give attention to your partner's feelings. 

Sometimes, all your partner wants is for you to lend an ear and be sympathetic about one of their problems. Other times, your partner wants you to actively give them advice. Know which one your partner is looking for, and try to give them what they want. Being a good listener is all about paying attention to what they're saying and not blowing it off.
Listening to your partner will enhance your relationship in many ways. It will help you resolve differences without arguing; let you explore each other's personality more deeply; and even help you pick out an awesome Christmas present. There are no downsides to listening.

6 Showing affection is very much required for a thriving relationships

 
There's a difference between knowing that you're loved and feeling that you're loved. Sometimes, we bank on the fact that our partners should know that we love them even when we don't show it. Don't rely on this too much. The best relationships use affection to show love.

Do something for your partner that you know s/he will truly appreciate. Whether it means getting up early to mow the lawn, taking the kids to karate, or baking that nutella shortcake, it's often the little favors that say the most.

Don't be afraid to show physical affection every once in a while. Loving relationships feed off of the little kisses, hugs, and back-rubs that are mainstays of affection.
Do the unexpected. It's one thing to kiss your partner after you come home from work; it's another thing to kiss your wife while you're skydiving, falling 10,000 feet from a plane. It's the thought that counts, so put a little effort into it for huge returns.

7 Be faithful.

Make sure he/she knows that you will always be there for him/her. Put him/her first in your life as much as you possibly can. Not that you have to only see him/her ever, or never talk to anyone else, but he/she should know that he/she can always count on you if he/she needs something. Also, expect the same loyalty from him/her. You deserve to feel prized in the relationship just as much as him/her.



8 Do not ever hide things from him/her. 
Especially your feelings about him/her and your relationship - whether good or bad! This way you will be able to overcome all the difficulties and challenges together. If something bad happened in your past that still affects you in the present, he/she needs to know about it. Note: you should be able to discuss your sexual history. It is an obligation before you decide to be sexually involved with your partner. But you should make them feel safe and not judgmental and you should expect the same from your partner.

9 Give him/her space and some freedom. 
Everyone needs their own privacy and some freedom, so don't constantly watch everything he/she does. Everyone hates to be watched, stifled and controlled.
Do not ever spy on him/her (reading his/her phone, stalking him/her on social networks, following him/her around). If he/she is cheating on you, you will find out. These things cannot be kept secret for very long. But if you spy on him/her and he/she is innocent, you will lose his trust and respect forever.

10 Express your love and care towards him/her.

 Always remind him/her of how much they mean to you, and what they represent to you. Women are not the only ones who need expressions of love and care, men need that too.

If you have a problem, you need to let him/her know - preferably in a clear and calm manner without any yelling. If he says `Are you OK?` and you answer yes, do not expect him to understand that you really meant no. Be honest and open.
Let him/her know it is safe to open up to you about what he is feeling. Reward his/her trust in you by sympathizing with him/her and, but you don`t need to say much, just listen.

Don't be afraid to lose him/her or spend every minute fearing the huge pain that that might cause you. Enjoy each wonderful moment as it happens, and realize that there will never be another one just like it.
Never be pathetic and needy just to make him/her pay attention to you and give you sympathy.

A solid relationship should be based on mutual respect; if you are constantly trying to pull him/her down with you, this means you don`t respect him /her enough to want him/her to be happy. If you are depressed, see a doctor - don`t pull some guy/girl into your problems.

11  Be supportive and always encourage him/her.

So that he/she can be more successful at work or study. That will make him/her realise how much you care about his/her future and wish that he/she'd become one of the best. It will also make his/her feeling towards you grow even stronger, and he/she will believe that you're ready to support him/her on anything he/she does.